I hope you guys are still with me as we finalize the retro teen sex talk look into my past...
Home Run: Scoring a home run basically means to go all the way, which I'm sure you all know. Well, at least I hope you know.
My First "Home Run" Experience: It's very awkward to write about. I thought I would be cool sharing it, but I'm actually really quite shy, nervously wondering who will see this. Anyway, my first experience was very special in that my high school boyfriend, "J" and I waited six months to take the plunge. We were both terrified. I was about to visit my relatives in Florida for Christmas vacation and we decided to exchange holiday gifts and go all the way before I left Long Island.
When: December 18, 1989
With Whom & How: "J" my high school boyfriend and I had been messing around for a while, and according to a diary entry from around that time, "We've done everything now, there's only one thing left to do." It gets better, the entry for the actual act of home run reads, "Last night J and I finally went all the way WITHOUT our underclothes on (what is this 1943? who says "underclothes"?). Actually, we did leave our clothes on sort of. I had a skirt on with nothing underneath, so... we used a "c" word of course. It was awful. It was really uncomfortable."
Yeah, sex sucked. It was good to just get it out of the way before heading off to college though I guess. I'm glad my first time was with my high school boyfriend and not some stupid one-night stand. There wasn't a lot of pressure and if there was it was between us, our uncertainty and fears of accidents and whatnot. I loved "J" very much. He often said, "you will never meet another guy who will ever treat you as good as I treat you." and sadly he was very right.
We were together a total of about three years. Things got rocky when I went away to college in New England. He was a year younger than me and still in high school. In a sick way, I'm secretly glad he's gay. Why? Because I can't look back and wonder what could have been. He has left me with very little room for regret.
Even though it was awful, it was with someone special. That's sweet, and I'm glad he turned out gay too - for your sake. (I totally understand.)
ReplyDeleteCheers,
Robyn
I just figure he must have loved you so much that another women would never have lived up to you :0)
ReplyDeleteGlad it wasn't in a church. You have so many interesting stories, they really should make your life into a movie.
ReplyDeleteWow...you are brave for sharing that though! It was actually a sweet story...I'm glad it was with your first boyfriend who you loved!
ReplyDeleteI would be SO glad to know he's gay. Then you can't think of other girls and be jealous. And you probably can't bring yourself to be jealous of a guy...ya know?
:)
And yeah, I think sex for girls the first time sucks. They lie in movies and books. They do.
Yeah, I bet you were so great, everything after you would've paled in comparison. He had to go gay.
ReplyDeleteit's actually really nice to read this.
ReplyDeletethank you for sharing :)
Great read. My first time was uncomfortable too, fortunately it was with someone I quite liked at the time (now I hate him and am glad to have him out of my life, that's what relationships do to you).
ReplyDeleteIt's great that you have no regrets at least.
ReplyDeleteShame that you haven't found anyone who treats you as good as he did though.
hehehe... "Underclothes"
Underclothes...*snickers* I only laugh because I use ridiculous words like that all the time!! LOL I've been loving the whole series on base-running...*wink, wink*, and think the story of the V-card cash-in was very sweet. It sounds like he was the perfect person to give that gift to, and I'm glad it turned out the way it did for you guys. =) (And the first time always sucks...IDK why people {ie-teenagers} refuse to accept this!! LMAO) At any rate, your first time was above and beyond the tragedy of my own, so kudos to you for keeping it with someone special who mattered!!
ReplyDeletenice experience, sweet memories
ReplyDeleteYou should of vlogged this one. That wouldn't of been awkward... .haha
ReplyDeleteGreat post. The thing that links us all is that we all have first times. And the sex is never ever good the first time.
ReplyDeleteAwww So romantical! I love the last part the most. Thanks for sharing your story! =)
ReplyDeleteYou're pretty brave for posting this, I must say! I got a kick out of the 'underclothes' thing too.
ReplyDeleteI have enjoyed these posts, in a careful way!
You are a star among us fools...is that how that quote goes?
ReplyDeleteWow, you have really caused me to dig up some really old memories out of this foggy head of mine. This is fun to read.
ReplyDeleteHope you have a great day!
Teresa <><
My first time was awful too! I think a lot of peoples were.
ReplyDeleteMy first time also turned out to be Gay! It was a similar story, high school sweethearts, we moved to Cali together and then whoah boy, he turned 21 a year before me and started hitting the bars...gay bars. That pretty much killed it. Where he is now, no one knows!
ReplyDeleteOk, I'm gonna admit it. I snickered at "underclothes", too....but when I glanced down to the comments, I laughed out loud at the "church" comment cheeseboy made.
ReplyDeleteYour first time sounded like my first time. My experience was also with my high school boyfriend. Difference is, I ended up marrying him. It lasted ten years. (About ten years too long.)
The 'underclothes' bit is the best!
ReplyDeleteHehehe underclothes. :)
ReplyDeleteBut I agree with you. It's nice to look back and not have any regrets about who your first time was with. With him being gay, you have close to a perfect situation!
Awe sounds so sweet! My first kind of turned out the same!
ReplyDeleteAt least he was a sweet guy. You should be treated wonderfully always.
ReplyDeleteGreat story, made me think of my first time. Its amazing how we can look back and tell without the embarrassment. Mine was an awkward experience, stll here to tell the tale, Thank you for sharing yours
ReplyDelete"(what is this 1943? who says "underclothes"?)"
ReplyDeleteI don't think I ever laughed out loud so hard before, at my desk, in front of my co-workers.
Ally, you're so brave and your stories are so sweet, they make me tear up.
ReplyDeleteUnderclothes. Ha!
And I know it's weird that it's good he's gay. Your healthy spin on it makes all the sense in the world.
I have nothing to say... lol....
ReplyDeleteCopyboy has the best comment ever!
You ARE brave to post this and good for you!
ReplyDeleteLove the way you incorporate your diary into it too!
I have miss you too and am glad to get back to you.
Life is busy. Let's all remember to change our underclothes on a daily basis.
First of all you rock for posting this! I <3 u so for that.
ReplyDeleteYeah the first time not so great, hell not even the many times after.
Takes a long time for women to truly enjoy it I think.
I think everyone's first time sucks. Like a rite of passage, you know? If there is someone out there who had the awesome sex first time with roses and orgasms and candles and a pink aura...then I hate you! (Well, not really, but ya know.)
ReplyDeleteGreat blog post, and I echo what RawknRobyns said.
I see what you mean about J being gay. Oh, and you using "underclothes" had me laughing out loud.
ReplyDeleteStill my hero for sharing. I waited a long long time and it ended up being almost too long. That's all I'll say.
ReplyDeleteUnderclothes! That's awesome. I think most people feel the same awkwardness about their first time as teenagers...that first time is never quite the way all of the teen novels and cheesy movies made us hope it could be.
ReplyDeleteNot an original thought here but you are my hero for sharing.
ReplyDeleteMy hubs reads my blog so I'm super nervous about writing about my first time or second for that matter. I would have a hard time NOT fawning over the guy all over again. Still have a thing for that big hunk of stupid.